To get through the mess I have created a nice to follow blog:
D-Link 528T on ESXi 5/5.1 procedure and driver. | cyber7
Thank you to everybody who did the investigation and for the time and afford on this. The drivers are working 100% in ESXi 5/5.1 and the procedure is easier to follow than anything.
cyber7 - AKA Aubrey Kloppers